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Why Are Weddings So Expensive?!

We truly do understand that everyone is adjusting to tightening budgets. The last year has hit hard everyone pretty hard. That being said, I encourage you to read this objectively.

We see so many refer to wedding professionals' pricing as "outrageous," "costing an arm and a leg," or "way too expensive". Your professional vendor, whether it be the hair and makeup artist, videographer, DJ, florist, wedding planner or others, have trained for this. They have, often times, dedicated years of their lives learning how to do what it takes to make your event everything you dreamed up in your head. To make reality the things you discovered on Pinterest. To make a seemingly impossible order of events happen seamlessly. I don't think I'm too far out of line to say that your average vendor has no less than 30 hours, before the day of, into your event and that doesn't even begin to approach the months and sometimes years your wedding planner will dedicate to your special day. In addition, there is insurance, licenses, gear, products, continued training, and so much more involved.

I pose a question to you. Is $8 dollars too much for a large coffee? For some, yes. It depends on your budget and how important that coffee is within your budget. Is there cheaper coffee? Absolutely, but it might not taste as good. So how important is it to have quality professionals who own their space in the field? How much of a risk are you willing to take on a "cheaper" option? How important are these items within your budget? That's the real question, if you're being honest with yourselves.

We, as professionals, know very well our worth within our respective markets. We know what we bring to the table versus our competition. Are there some really great options that are priced far below their market? Yes, but that is the extreme exception to the rule. And you should be cautious when choosing the exception.

We are just asking that if you're on a budget, just be honest with your vendors. We are not heartless and most will make an honest attempt to meet you where you are. Please try not to insult or demean the pros who have worked so hard to build a strong and profitable brand.

Here is another way to look at your vendors perceived value.

A customer asked a contractor friend of mine how much it would cost to do this project.

My friend gave him a proposal: $4500

The customer responded: That’s seems really high.

My friend asked: What do you think is a reasonable price for this job?

The customer answered: $2500 maximum

My friend responded: Ok, then I invite you to do it yourself.

The customer answered: I don't know how to.

My friend responded: Alright, then how about for $2500 I'll teach you how to. So besides saving you $2000, you'll learn valuable skills that will benefit you in the future.

The customer answered: Sounds good! Let’s do it!

My friend responded: Great! To get started, you are going to need some tools. You will need a chop saw, table saw, cordless drill, bit set, router, skill saw, jig saw, tool belt, hammer, etc..

The customer answered: But I don't have any of those tools and I can't justify buying all of these for one job.

My friend responded: Ok. Well then for an additional $300 I can rent my tools to you to use for this project.

The customer answered: Okay. That’s fair.

My friend responded: Great! We will start the project on Monday.

The customer answered: I work Monday through Friday. I’m only available on the weekends.

My friend responded: If you want to learn from me then you will need to work when I work. This project will take 3 days so you will need to take 3 days off work.

The customer answered: That means I’m going to have to sacrifice my pay for 3 days or use my vacation time!

My friend responded: That’s true. Remember, when you do a job yourself you need to account for unproductive factors.

The customer answered: What do you mean by that?

My friend responded: Doing a job completely from start to finish includes time spent to plan the project, pick up materials, travel time, gas, set up time, clean up, and waste disposal amongst other things. That’s all in addition to the actual project itself. And speaking of materials, that’s where we will start on Monday so I need you to meet me at the lumberyard at 6:00am.

The customer answered: At 6am?!! My work day doesn’t usually start until 8am!

My friend responded: Well then you’re in luck! My plan is to start on the deck build by 8am. But to do so we have to start at 6am to get materials picked up, loaded and delivered to your job site.

The customer answered: You know, I’m realizing that a lot more goes in to a job than what a customer sees in the finished project. Your proposal of $4500 is very reasonable. I would like you to handle the project.


When you pay for a job, especially a custom job, (whether it’s a physical project or digital project) you pay not only for the material and the work to be completed. You also pay for:

✔️ Knowledge

✔️ Experience

✔️ Custom Skills

✔️ Tools

✔️ Time to plan

✔️ Time to prepare

✔️ Professionalism

✔️ Work Ethic

✔️ Excellence

✔️ Discipline

✔️ Commitment

✔️ Integrity

✔️ Taxes

✔️ Licenses

✔️ Sacrifices

✔️ Liabilities

✔️ Insurance

If you request a proposal for custom work to be done, please don’t disrespect a service provider by trying to get them to lower their prices.

If their proposal exceeds your budget, there’s nothing wrong with getting other proposals.

Just remember.. you get what you pay for.

🏼 SERVICE PROVIDERS: Know your worth and be confident in it.

🏼 CONSUMERS: Recognize their worth and be respectful of it.

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