Why You Should Have an Unplugged Wedding
Updated: Nov 6
When you picture your wedding day, you picture the best day ever- right?! Years from now, when you look back at your photos and video, you’ll reminisce about just how perfect your wedding was. Well, until you come across picture after picture of your guests leaning into the aisle to get that “perfect shot” on their iPhone. And when you watch the video, everyone seems more concerned with making their own picture memories then enjoying the celebration that you worked so hard to plan. This doesn’t seem like the best way to remember your wedding right?
Unfortunately, in our social media driven society, we are seeing this at weddings more and more often. Everyone wants to get the perfect snapshot for Instagram or Snapchat. Meanwhile, you already had this planned out by hiring the vendors out there. Your photographer was carefully selected as someone who will produce quality pictures and videos that all your guests (and you!) can share as much as they want. To do this, couples simply need to make it clear that they would like for everyone to put their phones (and iPad’s – yes I am serious, this happened!) away and be present for the joyous moment that everyone came together to celebrate, it will create a much happier day and your wedding album will be free of iPhones.
Ok, so this is semi-selfish since we love the photographers we work with, but its definitely worth mentioning! Having an unplugged ceremony makes the photographer’s job much easier. A wedding ceremony is filled with little moments that require focus, and anticipation by your photographer. They only have a fraction of a second to capture that moment you see each other as you begin your walk down the aisle, or the moment you wipe the tear off your cheek, grandpa’s proud smile, or your flower girl giggling when you kiss. There’s a lot that goes through their minds when they are positioning themselves, checking their settings for optimal exposure, angles, and composition. Having to adjust their stance or work around people that hold their phones out last minute, makes it really easy to miss those memorable shots. Wouldn’t you rather have the professional image down the road?
Another advantage of asking your guests to be present is that you won’t have a ton of grainy, unflattering pictures come out on social media as the first impression that everyone who wasn’t at the wedding is going to see. The first photo of the two of you as a couple will be a polished, professional image that highlights the day and the two of you! We completely understand that people want to see your wedding ASAP on social media, especially these days when guest lists are having to be cut back due to COVID restrictions. However, professional photographers all offer instant teasers for those who choose to have an unplugged ceremony. In a matter of a day or two, you can see your beautifully edited teaser images online. And trust us, everyone is going to be blown away by how stunning you look and how quickly your photographer made your images available!
If you choose to have an unplugged ceremony, in addition to having a sign to make your guests aware of your choice, we also highly recommend having your officiant also make an announcement before the ceremony begins. Not sure what to have them say? Why not choose from one of the following options:
Unplugged Announcement Options
1. _____________ & _____________ respectfully request that all guests honor the sanctity of this moment by turning off their phones and cameras for the duration of the ceremony.
2. _____________ & _____________ invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your phones and put down your cameras. Their photographer will capture how this moment looks. I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology.
3. It is my pleasure to welcome you to the wedding of _____________ & _____________. Please take a moment to silence any cellphones or other noisy electronics. If you would also take a moment to put away your cameras, _____________ & _____________ have requested that no photos be taken during the ceremony. Thank you very much for your understanding.
4. Bride & Groom turn around to face all the guests.
Everyone! Get that photo you really want now, because we ask that your cameras remain off for the remainder of the ceremony.
5. _____________ & _____________ want you to be able to relax and have fun with them today! Keeping this in mind, we invite you to please put down your favorite devices and just be present in the moment with them. Leave your camera in your bag (we’ve got photography covered!), and put your cellphone on mute (we promise they will call back!). We are happy to share the professional wedding photos with you after the wedding. The greatest gift you can give _____________ & _____________ today us just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.
6. The happy couple ask that you share in their wedding day fully and not through the lens of a camera or cellphone.
So, will you opt for an unplugged ceremony or will you permit your guest to keep their phone and cameras on hand?